If you truly beleive (sic) that being polite is part of "our" moral code, I respectfuly (sic) suggest that you must not have been paying attention
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Your post … doesn't live up to reality. There's nothing polite about our society, we're just not as extreme as some others.
Politeness or good manners or
behaviour based on the principles of right or wrong is, indeed, a characteristic of our modern, secular, liberal, democratic society. Some people, including e.g. John Ibbitson in his recently published
The Polite Revolution (Toronto, 2005) mistakenly think it is a Canadian attribute; not so – it is, I suggest, a product of the enlightenment and a necessary component of most successful Western urban societies.
The
tolerance (which, I repeat, is a rather back-handed virtue, being based on an implicit sense of superiority over those being
tolerated) which might be the
sine qua non of placid multi-cultural societies is, really, nothing more than the good manners which I content is based on a general acknowledgement of a
right to personal privacy, which I suggest is part of our common law heritage.
The fact that some (many?) in our society behave badly now and again, more often than we would wish to be sure, is neither here nor there. The overarching fact,
I think, is that our society has institutionalized ‘good manners’ and, in many cases, adapted ‘good manners’ into everything from traffic laws to (harmful) hate crimes legislation –
zipperhead_cop is correct when he says that,
”It is this uber-polite mind set that has been the pointy end of the stick leading political correctness.” It is possible to be too polite, to allow ‘good manners’ to get in the way of common sense. Going back to the original point, I think Mr. Costello was refreshingly clear, direct and correct and I do not think he was rude or that breached some imaginary rules of
multi-cult etiquette. The key point is that while we need not be, should not be
politically correct we should respect the
privacy of others and, I would argue, that extends to not offering
intentional gratuitous insults to others which is why I qualified the original Danish acts as being
benign errors while I regard the actions of
Le Monde and
Die Welt as being unnecessarily and gratuitously insulting and, therefore, ill mannered and, ultimately, reduced to the lowest common cultural level.
I repeat: while, in my personal view, all people are equal in all things, the cultures which shape their attitudes and actions are unequal. I posit that
our enlightened, secular, liberal, democratic
culture is ‘superior’ to most others in that it is best adapted to and most likely to prosper in the 21st century global village. One of the attributes of our culture, one of the reasons we are ‘better’ is that we have institutionalized ‘good manners’ – we are polite because our
moral code acknowledges that
behaviour based on the principles of right or wrong is essential to the social peace and order which allows us to work together for out common good, etc.
We are polite because it is more efficient and productive (see Adam Smith, et al) to be polite, that is the
reality of the West for the past 500 years – for about as long has ‘we’ have dominated the world.